Relationships don’t have to be expensive

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  1. Mrs. ETT says:

    Games night. You may have to invest initially, but if everyone buys one game, you can get an entire year or longer of replayabiliy. Also, check out the Salvos and other charity shops, where you can get games much more cheaply. Finally, some public libraries will let you borrow games. RPGs are also super cheap – you need to buy the core rulebook and dice, then you can play the rest of your life for just the cost of pen, paper and imagination!

    • Miss Balance says:

      Yes! I love games nights, maybe a little too much. I’m quite competitive and quite a stickler for the rules so sometimes I need to chill a bit. Definitely a good suggestion though for couples, friends or family nights in.

  2. I’ve learned to say “no” to people when I lost weight back in 2013. Everyone tempted me with eat this and that, and when I refused they would be offended.

    I know this doesn’t have anything to do with money, but learning to explain to everyone that they should respect my decision because it’s important to he has helped me learn how to handle money better as well.

    We do go out, every once in a while, but having a good time with friends doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg. I’m not ashamed to tell my friends I prefer a cheaper location and neither are them, for sometimes saying they’d rather we visit each other and cook at home from time to time.

    After all, it’s not how much money we spend that keeps us close, it’s the quality time together.

    • Miss Balance says:

      Learning to say ‘no’ is one of the hardest things, especially for people who like to please others as part of their personality. I’m so glad you managed to set your boundaries and have grown some strong relationships.
      You are absolutely right, it is about the quality of time together.

  3. Poopsie and I no longer give gifts to each other and it is much better this way. He in particular used to get very stressed out when he had to give me a gift, nervous I wouldn’t like it. Additionally, we have been minimising quite a bit so found we were just adding clutter to the house. We like this arrangement much better. We find other ways to make the day special, like cooking the other person a special meal or like when Poopsie baked me the best penguin birthday cake ever. We have definitely ensured that our relationship is not expensive and you’ve given me some new ideas to try!

  4. Working through the social implications is probably the hardest part of a FI/RE journey.

    You are correct that many people would appreciate someone else taking the lead to reduce spending. However I am coming to realise more and more that a lot of the people around me do not care even a little bit about the money they are spending on frivolous crap, or they don’t understand how all those seemingly small purchases add up over time.

    I’m 29 and generally hang with people I between 24 and 32. I feel that as more of these people get a bit older they will appreciate the real value of their time and money, as I have recently realised and tighten up those purse strings.

    This may just be overly optimistic though

    • Miss Balance says:

      I know what you mean, a lot of people don’t care or don’t realise how quickly it adds up. However they still attend a lot of picnics and pot luck dinners. Whether it is by design or accident for them, I’m saving and I still get to socialise so I’m happy to make the effort.

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